If your girlfriend doesn't post you on Instagram, she's not your girlfriend

There’s nothing quite like going on Instagram, coming across a dude’s account, seeing he has his girlfriend posted up on nearly every picture, looking at her account to see more pics of how cute they look together, and then…

When I experienced this recently, I think I literally said, “Oh! So she’s single…” Because I hate to say it, but that’s literally what it’s giving.

This is not me hating, I promise. I just find it interesting and something I’m curious to dive into.

Before we continue, I feel the need to make some clarifications:

1. If neither you or your girlfriend have an Instagram account – this isn’t about you.

2. If one of you has an Instagram account and the other doesn’t – this isn’t about you.

3. If both of you have Instagram accounts and neither of you post each other – this isn’t about you.

4. If both of you have Instagram accounts and you post her but she doesn’t post you – this is about you.

Onward.

I’ve been in a relationship (or two…but really just one…) and to be fair that was when I was an actual child. And by child, I mean high school and a little bit of my early college years. Things were different then, I was different then, but there was one thing I was certain of that I believe is still true:

Girls are not difficult to understand.

What I mean by this is that many of us wear our emotions on our sleeve. This is where the whole “she says she’s fine but she’s really not fine and you can tell by her face” thing comes in. And it’s funny because it’s true!

It’s not difficult to tell if a girl is uninterested in her boyfriend. There are signs. When you talk to her, when you look at how she acts around him, and certainly when you look at her social media.

There’s a very specific type of couple you see this happen with. The guy who is head over heels for his girlfriend. He worships the ground she walks on. In his eyes, she can do no wrong. And he is willing to go through almost anything for her. Let’s call him the Infatuator.

Then there’s the girl. She probably likes her alone time. She probably has a lot of friends, or at least a close knit group of friends that she is fulfilled with. She has her priorities and her boyfriend, unfortunately, is not one of them. Let’s call her the Independent.

(Let’s also ignore the fact that I just described myself 🤣…)

On paper, the Infatuator and the Independent make a good couple. What girl doesn’t want a guy who’s obsessed with her? But then, something happens. And for lack of a better way to describe this “something”…it’s cringe.

At first, it’s endearing. He’s so in love with her and he wants to show her the world and he’s nice and cute and she finds worth in that and feels good and they’re in love and on and on and on. And then one day, as if the timer was simply waiting to reach zero, the Independent reaches her limit. She wakes up and realizes,

What am I doing?

Why am I with this guy again?

And the Infatuator is lost. He’s lost because in his mind everything is going well. He’s in love, what else is there?

The problem is the lack of reciprocity. There’s no push and pull. That’s what every good relationship needs. And definitely the relationships where the guy posts the girl (and she posts him, too!).

Social media is not the deciding factor in whether relationships will last, but it’s certainly a good indicator. And because of this, I am never gonna post if I’m in a relationship and if you know me you’ll randomly find out because I’m gonna pop up married without ever talking about my significant other 🤗.

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Rahh!!! I had so much fun writing this one for you guys. It’s funny…with a bit of truth…which is why things are funny! I hope y’all enjoyed :).

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As always,

much love,

angela °❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･